Aaya mausam shadi ka...
Wednesday, October 10, 2007 by hope
Kuch mausam hi aisa hai ya ye baat kuch aur hai.. suddenly every one around me is getting engaged or married.. and after sharing their news the first Q comes my way is.. err.. no need to mention that..
Lekin dil ko jhatka laga halka sa.. jab suna that my first crush is getting engaged.. hmmm.. ek baar fir hum gaye un galion mei jaha rehti thi baharein..kya din the.. hum kitne masoom the.. aur vo kitne haseen the.. uii ulta bol diya shayad but jo bhi tha bada hi khoobsurat tha..
Na bole tum na maine kuch kaha.. magar na jane aisa kyo laga.. ki dhoop mei khila hai chand.. din mei raat ho gayi.. dil ki bina sune kahe hi baat ho gayi..
Kuch aise hi thi kahani but that sand castle crashed silently.. as they say we never forgets our first love.. same as that one never forgets first crush too.. it'll always remain special.. and then surprisingly we met after 91/2 yrs.. and became good friends.. So wishing him a very happy life ahead with loads of love n luck n halka sa jhatka *smiles*
One of my close friend is getting married next month.. and its an arranged marriage.. well she is a bit scared as doesnt know much about the guy.. hmm.. i dont know what to say.. getting married to a stranger.. is like a gambling.. may be you'll be happy.. may be you wont.. but aint both of these possibilities are present in both situations.. but donno why today arranged marriage appears as a nightmare to us.. but if i turn around and look at my parents then i feel otherwise.. well ofcourse it was an arranged marriage but iam telling you they were one of the most romantic and made for each other couple.. but then i feel that those people have so much patience and a big heart to compromise for even little little things.. to make their relationship work.. but today we lack those qualities.. on one point we claim that we are so adaptable and can adjust well but truly we are impulsive and egoistic and not ready to sacrifice.. well you can disagree but these are the only reasons.. but who said love marriages are always successful.. there are times when people forgets all love just for one silly reason.. hmm.. basically the point is arrange or love ..you have to work hard every moment to strengthen the bond.. and compromises and sacrifices are what life is about... So i wish my beautiful friend a beautiful life ahead.. filled with lots of love.. love.. love.. *smiles*
Song of the moment.. Meri zindagi mei aaye ho.. aur aise aaye ho tum.. jo ghul gaya hai saanso mei.. vo geet laye ho tum..
Lekin dil ko jhatka laga halka sa.. jab suna that my first crush is getting engaged.. hmmm.. ek baar fir hum gaye un galion mei jaha rehti thi baharein..kya din the.. hum kitne masoom the.. aur vo kitne haseen the.. uii ulta bol diya shayad but jo bhi tha bada hi khoobsurat tha..
Na bole tum na maine kuch kaha.. magar na jane aisa kyo laga.. ki dhoop mei khila hai chand.. din mei raat ho gayi.. dil ki bina sune kahe hi baat ho gayi..
Kuch aise hi thi kahani but that sand castle crashed silently.. as they say we never forgets our first love.. same as that one never forgets first crush too.. it'll always remain special.. and then surprisingly we met after 91/2 yrs.. and became good friends.. So wishing him a very happy life ahead with loads of love n luck n halka sa jhatka *smiles*
One of my close friend is getting married next month.. and its an arranged marriage.. well she is a bit scared as doesnt know much about the guy.. hmm.. i dont know what to say.. getting married to a stranger.. is like a gambling.. may be you'll be happy.. may be you wont.. but aint both of these possibilities are present in both situations.. but donno why today arranged marriage appears as a nightmare to us.. but if i turn around and look at my parents then i feel otherwise.. well ofcourse it was an arranged marriage but iam telling you they were one of the most romantic and made for each other couple.. but then i feel that those people have so much patience and a big heart to compromise for even little little things.. to make their relationship work.. but today we lack those qualities.. on one point we claim that we are so adaptable and can adjust well but truly we are impulsive and egoistic and not ready to sacrifice.. well you can disagree but these are the only reasons.. but who said love marriages are always successful.. there are times when people forgets all love just for one silly reason.. hmm.. basically the point is arrange or love ..you have to work hard every moment to strengthen the bond.. and compromises and sacrifices are what life is about... So i wish my beautiful friend a beautiful life ahead.. filled with lots of love.. love.. love.. *smiles*
Song of the moment.. Meri zindagi mei aaye ho.. aur aise aaye ho tum.. jo ghul gaya hai saanso mei.. vo geet laye ho tum..
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lovely reading this post...it indeed is a very enjoyable season to us with invitations from so many receptions aur ha kabhi kabhi jahatka bhi lag jata hai, lekin sab kuch sehna parta hai...nice one!
I must comment on this post.
Marriage is something which happens betrween souls! Arrange or love does not matter...
Well arrange is amazingly inerreting..no gamble..rather safer option..as whole of your family is there with you are all of tehm are happy...in this case all the tenion is taken by "parents"..you need to just sit and enjoy...love happens in this case..aur use khone ka dar bhi nahi :)
...Wish a haapy married life to your friend!
kalyan *smiles*
jyoti Well i was trying to say same.. that love or arrange doesnt really matters but what matters most is how you gonna nurture the rship from there..
nothing is safe in any situation till both are not willing to give their 100% .. arranged marriage ..ye love comes eventually but doesnt mean that love cant leave you in that case.. actually love can leave you.. anytime if you mishandle things.. right.. and yes! i dont believe in eternal love or something now.. for me it dont exists.. in this selfish world.. *smiles*
ohhh 1st love or 1st crush ki saadi means jor ka jhatka dheere se lage.....:P...
saadi love ho ya arrange bus understanding honi chie....
aapke dost and mere dosto ko bhi saadi/engagement ki well wishes....:)
Wow!!!
Meri Shadi kab hogi:(
You kept your point beautifully, but what i feel that eitehr its love or arrange marriage compromises and understanding is one which needs to from both side.
Its like, in arrange marriage we do it after marriage and in love marriage, these things already been done..and if not they are not going to be successful.
Hope jee, my Q is Aap kab shaadi kar rahein hain? :P
Chalo, lemme tell you the story of my Grandparents. My Nanajee married Nanijee without seeing each other. They saw each other after the marriage as Nanijee had a big ghoonghat. My Nana ji was Hindu and Nanijee Sikh and such marriages were common in those days in Pakistan part of Punjab. Now, my Nanijee was the most simple person ever and she never asked Nanaji anything but such was his love for her that without saying he decided to raise all his 5 kids as sikhs. For me, this is love marriage :-)
congrats to u frnd on gettin married...!
aur aap kaisi hain? theek to hain na.
oh es saadi ke mausam ne TIF ko gayab kar diya....:)
but fir bhi ye TIF yaad rahega....
happy navratra and ID... :)
Hi,
Marriages are said to be made in Heaven...
When marriage is done, you get to enter into life. You marry with your partner but you came itno raltionship with so many people.
You have to take care of all things also..
Today, love marriages are not successful bcoz they are not able to thing beyond their partner.
And,many times problem starts from here only. Till the time they are living alone its ok, but when it comes to live with your hubby's partner, girls are not ready to compromise on that front and whatever happen boys do want theri parents to be respected.
And when it comes to boys, may be before marriage they are ready about the girls freedom but after marriage priorities chaneg and ne who can sutain with that can made thier marriage successful.
There can be many more reason..its just one of them.
Shaaki ke baad ke kahani kab aayege?? :P
Marriages are scary!!! i wud always go for love one though despite and inspite of everything.